Hello! Welcome to Harmony Begins Within. A safe no-judgment haven; a trampoline for personal growth. 

My name is Brocha Speyer. Wife and mother and writer and coach. Born in Los Angeles, but living in Yerushalayim since I was ten (that’s a long time b”ah).

And here’s a zany confession: the last thing I thought I’d become was a marital relationship coach. It just wasn’t something that I’d ever even considered.

When I began training as an NLP coach, my original plan was to coach women to build thriving passion-businesses so they could support their families doing what they loved. That was my idea of adventure. But, then, after having been a coach for a while (who focused mostly on clients’ internal barriers to goal achievement) and always looking to level up my skills, I heard that a coach I admired for her striking finesse was starting a coaches’ training program. And I knew I had to join. The fact that her training was going to focus on relationships? Well, who really cared? I would steal her coaching toolkit, copy-past her artistry, and apply it all towards the varient of coaching that I was personally passionate about. The relationship aspect? Eh. It wouldn’t make a difference either way. 

But as I progressed through the long months of relationship training, weird things started to happen. My husband and I started feeling closer. And closer. Suddenly, after over 15 years of marriage, no amount of time together seemed like enough. Our bond became deeper than ever. Now we were simply enamored with one another.  I discovered that the level of joy I was experiencing around my relationship at that point was uniquely exhilarating and exquisite. Possibly more fulfilling than anything I’d experienced before. Uh…did  I say that the notion of relationship coaching hadn’t really excited me? Well now it did. And I wanted to get out there and let all women know just how much power they had buried between their ears.

So hear o women: if your relationship is good, you can make it way better. And if it’s sagging or withering, you can infuse it with new life. Totally singlehandedly.

Because a woman is the natural leader in her relationships (across all cultures, by the way. And yes, I am totally generalizing because there are some males out there who embody more female energy than some females:).

And also because a relationship is like a dance. If you change just one dance step, the other person can’t just keep on moving to the same old rythm. 

So whether it’s about your relationship with your husband, your teen, your toddler, your mother in law…or, well, just about anyone else…

Just change one pattern. One thought. One feeling. One belief.

That’s literally all it takes to start shifting the dynamic.