This Isn’t About Fixing Him. It’s About Reclaiming You.
An experiential course for frum married women — rooted in NLP & parts work — designed to transform your marriage from the inside out
You feel it don't you?
The tension between the two of you. The emotional gap that keeps widening. The longing for closeness that seems impossible to reach.
You’ve tried it all: reading articles, books, going to shalom bayis classes, shiurim.
But none of it really worked.
The advice felt too broad. Or like it was written for someone else’s marriage, not yours.
This course is different.
It's Experiential
It's Profound
It Gets Results
And not theoretical. You won’t just learn “what to do” – you’ll experience it firsthand, using techniques like NLP, guided visualizations and somatic practices to create deep, lasting shifts.
You’ll move beyond surface-level advice and step into a process of self-discovery and empowerment that will redefine your role in your marriage.
It’s designed for real results: no fluff, no vague suggestions – just practical, actionable tools to help you create the connection you’ve been longing for.
Each week brings you deeper into connection — not just with your husband, but with yourself...
Reignite connection by tapping into the power you already hold.
Learn how to stop waiting for change — and start creating it from the inside out.
Break free from burnout and resentment by reconnecting to your true self.
In this module, you’ll reclaim your voice, your joy, and the vibrant presence your marriage is missing.
What if you had a time machine that kept you centered in the here and now?
Learn how to return to the present—calm, clear, and in control—when things feel triggering.
Master the art of asking in a way that gets heard—without pressure or control.
Shift into open, trust-based communication that creates connection and mutual respect. (Hint: it’s an inside job.)
Learn how to face tension with confidence instead of avoiding it.
This module shows you how to turn conflict into connection, and disagreement into deeper understanding.
Deepen the connection you’ve built—and keep growing together.
Learn tools to create trust, healing, and the emotional capacity to truly receive good.
Success Stories
Thanks so much, Brocha. Over the course of this morning, I was able to use the feeling technique twice already, and it was really powerful.
The first was when I was feeling low about myself… I got in touch with a little voice that used to call me phony when I was younger. I was able to feel that and cry it out using the self-soothing techniques. I moved through these feelings and then got in touch with my inner joy and knowledge of how proud Hashem is of me…I was able to dance in a shower of love and that white sparkling light…it was amazing and powerful.
The next time was when I read something and felt a very uncomfortable feeling in my stomach. So I was able to be with it. And again this allowed me to come back and appreciate the love…
It really is such a gift what you gave me, and I hope to continue growing more and more with you…
Tamar G., Har Nof
That was unbelievable how you got the physical tension I felt (around initiating something that would strengthen my bond with my husband) to simply melt away in a matter of minutes. I can’t even access that tension in the back of my neck now, it disappeared. This was a brand new idea to me!
Judy, Kiryat Belze
It’s been just nine sessions now, but I’ve basically achieved what I wanted.
I had two goals. One was to improve my marriage by learning how to create safety within myself even when things got chaotic with my husband (as they often do when he goes through difficult periods) and not feel a compulsive need to change him at these times. I can now hold on to myself way, way better, and give him more space to be him. This seems to have a very soothing effect on the dynamic between us.
My other goal was to move past my inner barrier to opening up emotionally to my husband (and children too), and to really be able to share my own experience and be with him in his experience from an emotionally available place. When we began working, I experienced this as a difficulty with an intensity of about 9 out of 10. Now, it seems to flow.
Dassy C., Neveh Yaakov
I have gained tremendously from Brocha’s course.Her lectures are engaging, providing step by step guidance on how to improve the quality of your life. She provides practical tools and techniques to improve your relationship with yourself and with others.I have implemented the techniques that she has shared in this course in my life and I have seen a positive difference. I highly recommend her course.
Miriam B., Har Nof
Meet Brocha
Hi, I’m Brocha Speyer. Wife and mother and writer and coach. Born in Los Angeles, but living in Yerushalayim since I was ten (that’s a long time b”ah).
And here’s a zany confession: the last thing I thought I’d become was a marital relationship coach. It just wasn’t something that I’d ever even considered.
When I began training as an NLP coach, my original plan was to coach women to build thriving passion-businesses so they could support their families doing what they loved. That was my idea of adventure. But, then, after having been a coach for a while (who focused mostly on clients’ internal barriers to goal achievement) and always looking to level up my skills, I heard that a coach I admired for her striking finesse was starting a coaches’ training program. And I knew I had to join. The fact that her training was going to focus on relationships? Well, who really cared? I would steal her coaching toolkit, copy-past her artistry, and apply it all towards the varient of coaching that I was personally passionate about. The relationship aspect? Eh. It wouldn’t make a difference either way.
But as I progressed through the long months of relationship training, weird things started to happen. My husband and I started feeling closer. And closer. Suddenly, after over 15 years of marriage, no amount of time together seemed like enough. Our bond became deeper than ever. Now we were simply enamored with one another. I discovered that the level of joy I was experiencing around my relationship at that point was uniquely exhilarating and exquisite. Possibly more fulfilling than anything I’d experienced before. Uh…did I say that the notion of relationship coaching hadn’t really excited me? Well now it did. And I wanted to get out there and let all women know just how much power they had buried between their ears.
So hear O women: if your relationship is good, you can make it way better. And if it’s sagging or withering, you can infuse it with new life. Totally singlehandedly.
Because a woman is the natural leader in her relationships (across all cultures, by the way. And yes, I am totally generalizing because there are some males out there who embody more female energy than some females:).
And also because a relationship is like a dance. If you change just one dance step, the other person can’t just keep on moving to the same old rhythm.
So whether it’s about your relationship with your husband, your teen, your toddler, your mother in law…or, well, just about anyone else…
Just change one pattern. One thought. One feeling. One belief.
That’s literally all it takes to start shifting the dynamic.
Feel free to email me with any questions: Brocha@harmonybeginswithin.com